Christmas Vibes

So, firstly I hope everyone had a fab Christmas. 

Christmas is a big deal in my house. Usually my house is filled with anyone and everyone slightly related to my family. From aunties, uncle, cousins to friends, girlfriends, boyfriends, family friends the whole lot. My mum and auntie tend to split the food cooking down the middle with my auntie bringing all the Nigerian food and my mum cooking the roasts. Then we play Monopoly or Cluedo which usually ends in arguments that someone cheated, watch the Queen's Speech and EastEnders (even though we haven't watched it throughout the year). By 4am everyone has left or found a place on the sofa or the floor to sleep over and Christmas is done. But as with the whole of 2017, this year was different.

Firstly, there were no kids. My auntie in America didn't fly over as she had a baby a few months ago, one of my uncles couldn't come and the other is a mental health nurse so he was working. So it was only my mum, my sister, my nana and I, then out of the blue my oldest cousin turns up. Armed with a bottle of Belaire, presents and apologies that he hadn't seen us in ages; it officially became the first adult-only Christmas in a while. A lot of the excitement about Christmas comes from little kids so it was a more chilled vibe. 

Of course it was filled with laughter both together and at each other, but it was still different. Instead of renditions of "Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star" and trying to convince the kids to eat, we laughed about my cousin's ex-girlfriends and politics. We still watched Frozen but we also watched Forrest Gump and laughed at the sex scene. We danced to songs long past 8pm when usually we have to start whispering as the kids have gone to bed. But I still missed them.

This new type of Christmas allowed me to think about what Christmas is really about for me. So here it is, my big revelation: Christmas edition. No matter how big or small, Christmas is about reminding me why I love my family and friends. Being from a big, loud family of over achievers there are many arguments throughout the year as everyone always thinks they're right. And because we're really close these often leads to me acting as mediator. Whether I'm mediating an argument about who's the best Marvel superhero (for me it's Black Widow) or the best way to raise a child (I stayed out of this one) they're my big crazy family and I can't help but love them. 

They can never be called boring. 

They can never be called unsupportive. 

If you try to come for one of us they can never be called weak.

Wish me luck finding someone who I love as much as them.

J xx