I'm So Angry
Regardless of how close you are to me you probably don't know this but my sister is autistic. However, because she's very high functioning it's only something she was diagnosed with abut 3 years ago. Just for clarification she's on the autistic spectrum and she has what used to be called Aspergers' syndrome but is now all included on the autistic spectrum.
Obviously, I'm not angry that she's autistic but on Thursday at school there was an incident with some people in her year. Ok, so, they were all chilling in the common room (she's 16 so she's started sixth form) and someone started making fun of people with disabilities. As someone that is on the spectrum she felt offended and told everyone that she's high functioning however some people would still classify her as disabled and therefore what they were saying was rude and they should stop. They proceeded to laugh at her and started making jokes about her. Initially, she tried to grin and bare it, but they didn't stop. She was so upset she went to the toilet and burst into tears. Her friends consoled her and then she remembered she's a bad b and went back to group. She told each and every one of them what she truly thought and burned all their bridges and rightfully so. When my mum told me I couldn't have been more proud.
Now, with me I have a lot of associates and not that many friends. But once you're my friend I'll be fiercely protective like you're family. The anger that I feel right now isn't so much at the stupid kids that made fun of my sister because of her disability, but because this is something that she's going to face, time and time again and I can't protect her. Previously her frustration with emotions that she doesn't understand have come out in the form of anger, meaning that she got in trouble at school but as she's got older she's got better. But what if this had happened at work or at uni and she hadn't handled it as well or if her true friends weren't there to support her, what then?
Arguably the role I play in our little family dynamic is weird, I'm half-parent half-sister as at times I've had to help my mum when my dad just didn't turn up to his job as a father. Until recently I didn't think anything of it, it's just who I am and even in my friendships I often naturally take on a motherly role. If my sister ever needed anything that for whatever reason my mum couldn't provide, or she just didn't want to worry mum about that was my job, I'd step in and take care of it. I've always been there for my sister and this is the first time I wasn't there to stand up for her.
This isn't something I even considered because stupidly I thought that the first time she would experience ignorance would be at uni, when she met people from small towns that hadn't met black people, disabled people etc before. So, according to my clock I still had 2 years left to prep her and make sure she was ready. Instead it happened last week.
To be honest I don't even know the whole point of this rant but hey ho guess it's all part of me learning to deal with my emotions.
Obviously, I'm not angry that she's autistic but on Thursday at school there was an incident with some people in her year. Ok, so, they were all chilling in the common room (she's 16 so she's started sixth form) and someone started making fun of people with disabilities. As someone that is on the spectrum she felt offended and told everyone that she's high functioning however some people would still classify her as disabled and therefore what they were saying was rude and they should stop. They proceeded to laugh at her and started making jokes about her. Initially, she tried to grin and bare it, but they didn't stop. She was so upset she went to the toilet and burst into tears. Her friends consoled her and then she remembered she's a bad b and went back to group. She told each and every one of them what she truly thought and burned all their bridges and rightfully so. When my mum told me I couldn't have been more proud.
Now, with me I have a lot of associates and not that many friends. But once you're my friend I'll be fiercely protective like you're family. The anger that I feel right now isn't so much at the stupid kids that made fun of my sister because of her disability, but because this is something that she's going to face, time and time again and I can't protect her. Previously her frustration with emotions that she doesn't understand have come out in the form of anger, meaning that she got in trouble at school but as she's got older she's got better. But what if this had happened at work or at uni and she hadn't handled it as well or if her true friends weren't there to support her, what then?
Arguably the role I play in our little family dynamic is weird, I'm half-parent half-sister as at times I've had to help my mum when my dad just didn't turn up to his job as a father. Until recently I didn't think anything of it, it's just who I am and even in my friendships I often naturally take on a motherly role. If my sister ever needed anything that for whatever reason my mum couldn't provide, or she just didn't want to worry mum about that was my job, I'd step in and take care of it. I've always been there for my sister and this is the first time I wasn't there to stand up for her.
This isn't something I even considered because stupidly I thought that the first time she would experience ignorance would be at uni, when she met people from small towns that hadn't met black people, disabled people etc before. So, according to my clock I still had 2 years left to prep her and make sure she was ready. Instead it happened last week.
To be honest I don't even know the whole point of this rant but hey ho guess it's all part of me learning to deal with my emotions.
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